
Thank you all for voting!
It seems that those who voted are looking for someone who is, the same denomination, honest and ambitious. This is wonderful! What I find very interesting though is that finding someone attractive is 4th on people’s list of non-negotiables. I was certainly not expecting that! The joint fifth most popular were financial stability and liking children.
Of course this little exercise was far from scientific, but it confirms to me that those who are looking for a relationship are not interested in shallow or superficial traits. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to finding someone that fulfils your 5 non-negotiables is impatience. Like Easu who sold his birthright for a pot of lentils. Impatience can cause us to sacrifice future blessing for temporary gratification. If you are with someone or considering being with someone that only fulfils 1 or 2 of your non-negotiables then you should really reconsider if the benefit of temporary loneliness, outweighs longterm misery. I submit that it’s not.
Habakkuk 2:3 (CEV)
3At the time I have decided, my words will come true. You can trust what I say about the future. It may take a long time, but keep on waiting– it will happen!
When people compromise their non-negotiables unhappiness often ensues. Some think that if they stick to their standard they will never find someone, so they take anyone who comes along.